By Chris Ward

This article was originally written as a posting to the Hand Ball List, hence it is formatted as a letter.
Hey Guys:

Often I read emails on this list from people seeking advice on how to fist someone for the first time. I know that just about everyone on this list has poped some virgin butts--and everyone has his own technique for helping the bottom take a fist for the first time. I am pretty good at working with first timers--infact it is one of my specialties. Over IML weekend I opened up 7 new holes (I admit, that is my weekend record!), and in my many years of fisting, I have only failed twice when attempting a first fisting. I have a few tricks that just about always work, and I thought I would pass them along.

The first thing I do when my novice bottom is lying in a sling is to talk to them. Usually they tell me that they have been trying to get fisted, but although they have taken 4 or so fingers, they really can't just go that final distance. This is really a common situation which I encounter at least 3 or 4 times a month. These guys have really worked to get fisted, and they are often frustrated by their lack of success. Another common situation is guys that were fisted once--years ago and it was a bad experience. I count these guys as novices as well.

I start by telling them three important things that will help alleviate any tension that comes from anxiety: 1). Once the fist goes in, the butt hole is actually stressed less than when the fist is actually going in--the pain does not keep on building, instead it is quickly releived (though the feeling is still very intense) as soon as the fist slides in and finds a comfortable place to come to a rest. Experienced fisters, of course, know this--but it can sometimes be a bit of welcome news to the beginner; 2) once the fist is in, I tell them, I will not do anything intense--instead I will let it stay in about 30 seconds, and then I will carefully remove it. This first fisting is to break down physical and psychological barriers. The second fisting will be much easier. And Finally, 3) I tell them that contrary to what they might think, taking the fist out is not nearly as bad as putting it in. It is amazing how many guys have psychological fear relating to these three issues, so by talking about them it really helps releive tension and get their butt holes to opened up.

The next think I do is find out what sort of enhancements they use. Usually a first timer needs some kind of drugs, but this is not always the case. I usually recommend popers at a minimun, and a bit of pot doesn't help. Beyond that I have a hard time in actually recomending that someone use harder drugs. That is up to them (and it doesn't hurt insofar as my job of fisting them is concerned). If they don't have popers, I provide them a good bottle.

Step three often involves convincing them that they should be using Crisco® rather than other forms of lube (which are simply not as slick). If my hands are in good shape and we are in a clean environment, I will recommend not using gloves--but I never insist on it. Gloves to create drag and they can be a bit irritating. Use much more lube than you would normally use--you can never have too much. I normally use 1 small can per fisting.

I warm the bottom up with care, starting with just a finger, then two or three. When the hole is a little open, I start pushing lube up into his chute. One thing to remember is that warm Crisco® is a lot more slick than cold Crisco® --and a warm butt hole is more into getting fisted than a cold one. So always go slow enought to let the lube warm up. (After they have been getting fisted for years they can move up to the level of iced Crisco® , etc).

A word of warning: bottoms will almost always go on and on about "go slow, go slow." Indeed, one must move slowly, but if you spend too much time on the warmup, their very sensitive butts will become too sore to take a fist--inshort, there is a window of opportunity before their butts close down. Many first fisting attempts fail because this window is missed.

I have never warmed anyone up for more than about 15 minutes. Physically, the butt is not going to benefit from additional foreplay, and after a short while it will become irritated.

Tops should think about three things as the fisting attempt progresses: 1) do not have to much motion going on--instead just keep your hand moving very very slowly and very very steadily; 2) try to make a little progress with each attempt, realizing that it may take 4 or 5 attempts to finally succeed; 3) when the bottom gets to the point of widest stretch, but keeps failing, make him take a tripple hit of poppers--this will usually do the trick.

Tops should also try to figure out where the chute goes before an actual fisting takes place--it will make the effort much less painful. I figure this out when I am at the "three fingers" stage--push the three fingers in as far as they can go and try to find the second sphincter--then follow this route up when you actually start fisting.

For problem bottoms (who dont line up right on the inside, or who just can't quite get over the widest part) here is a simple trick that can help. Take your hand all the way out and give them a chance to rest for 30 or so seconds. Then make them push out on their butt holes as hard as they can--tell them to keep pushing until you tell them to stop. When pushing out, their insides often line up and you can find your best fisting route. Also, while pushing out the bottom can take a whole lot more discomfort--which is key. While they are pushing out, push your fist in as far as possible, and with the pressure still very steady, tell them too relax very quickly. Guess what! The fist usually works its way in.

Sometimes the top must really help the bottom get thru that final moment. It is often an issue of trust--you have to talk to your bottom and construct a bond so that he will be able to allow you to do what you need to do at the right time. With some guys, when the going gets really tough, I look them directly in the eye and convince them to trust me a bit more. Sometimes I have to convince them to take just a bit more discomfort--but I only have to do this if I feel they are really very close and just need a tiny bit more of a push to succeed. Also, tops should know that at some point when pushing that first fist into the butt, there comes a point that to pull the fist out is just as painful as pushing it the rest of the way in. If you get stalled at that point, your best bet is to convince the bottom to go for it. Another thing to understand is the power of momentum. IF the forward motion of the fist ever stops, further pushing can be very irritating--a slow steady motion from outside the hole all the way in is the best, least irritating way to get the job done.

Almost always these guys are amazed that they could take it with relative ease (I do have small hands--and you bottoms out there are advised to start with smaller hands rather than larger ones). And almost always after I fist them, they want it again after a minute or two rest.

So here is a basic summary:

1. use poppers 2. use Crisco®3. 3. dont over warm up the bottom 4. keep motion to a minimum--slow and gentle is the way to succeed 5. work with the bottom to get the job done 6. build a level of trust by talking about issues that may be causing undue tension. 7. and for bottoms--try to find a top with small hands who has experience!

I hope this is helpful. It comes from years of experience,and it is just some of the stuff I have picked up on the fisting trail. There are a bunch of guys on this list who have experienced my approach for initial fisting. Feel free to ask around and they can tell you it really works.

If anyone has any hints they would like to pass along, please email them to me. I am always trying to become a better top.

Fisting a new hole

I didn't really know what to expect, going to Chicago for the grandest of all leather events. I knew there would be thousands of hot men around, which meant lots of potential models to recruit for my movies! And lots of potential meat for hard core, heavy duty SEX. Perhaps some new friendships might develop, and maybe I could get some new fist fuck buddies....

MAFIA, the nation's oldest and most revered handballing club, has a bunch of guys who decided to make sure I was going to have the time of my life. And boy did they deliver! Hot sex began only hours after my arrival. MAFIA's former president and current Corporate Secretary, Ed Edgington, picked me up at the airport and took me first out to dinner and then over to his house for the first of several fist fuck parties that would take place over the next 100 or so hours. I was anxious to meet Ed--he is world famous because of his double jointed fingers. I have heard people refer to him as the best top in America. I wanted his hand up my ass.

Guests started arriving around 10. First to arrive was Diego Montana, one of my costars from The Hole Punch, followed by two hot guys from Ft.Lauderdale who shall for the present remain anonymous. They are going to star in a future fist fucking flick--I'm gonna make sure of it because they are good at fisting and hot as shit. Then there was Mike from New York and Ed's leatherman husband. And, of course, Michael Pereya. I was glad Pereyra was there because I wanted to have sex with at least one former Mr. IML over the weekend. And guys, his tits are as fantastic as they look on video.

My butt was hungry from the start--surrounded by a dungeon full of expert fisters, how could it not be. Most people know me as a top, but I really like to get it as much as give it. So I figured, I ought to find somebody to shove their hand up my ass right away. And there across the room was my old buddy Diego. He has nice small hands (which I like) and he really knows how to use them. He is a fine handballer. There was a set of stairs leading down to the play space, and we figured it would be cool to do some fisting there. He also wanted to have me positioned face down so he could fist me while looking at my new back tattoo. I have a jeweled daggar going down my spine, flanked by two nasty Griffins with big hard cocks.

His hand went up my hole pretty fast. He knows what he is doing. He also remembered how hard I had fisted him in the past. And we both were enjoying being together again, reunited fisting buddies. Diego worked me over good and hard. He went deeper than I have ever gone, and shoved his balled fist in and out of my hairy hole until I had to make him stop. Well over an hour had gone by.

After a short rest from the fisting frenzy that was going on all around me, I took up the challenge of introducing a fisting near-virgin into the scene. One of the guys from Ft. Lauderdale, he was this 30ish tanned, hairy chested, muscle stud--perfection on feet if you ask me. In a way, you guys out there are going to get to have sex with him too, because he is going to be the star of one of my upcoming videos. He had been fisted once before, but only for a second or two and at great pain. He vividly remembers screaming when that earlier, unskilled fist forced its way in. He wanted it bad, especially since his hunky, tattooed, boyfriend was a black hole extraordinaire. He was used to his boy friend writhing in extacy while being fisted. He wanted to share in the experience. Michael Pereyra warmed him up for me, but his hands were just too big to go in. This guy was tight, his muscle butt strong and solid. And he had something that just makes me cream in my jeans--lots of light blond body hair that stood out against his Ft. Lauderdale sun tan.

I coached him carefully. I am really good at fisting people for the first time--indeed my success rate is one of the things that makes me famous. I rarely fail, so I had the audacity to stake my reputation on the line by telling the whole group that this would be a no-problem fisting. I also could feel how bad he wanted it, and I knew I would have his full cooperation in getting the job done. It would hurt, but only a little, I told him. The good would outweigh the bad. His dick was hard in anticipation of getting fisted, but I think he was expecting another failure. I lubed up and put each of my fingers up his ass, one by one to warm up the grease--warm lube is slicker and makes the job easier. He had to breath deeply, I said. He was instructed to do exactly as he was told. Michael Pereyra worked his tits, his boyfriend held his hand, Ed and his boy friend stood near, while Diego and Michael from New York watched and rubbed both our bodies. I put my bottom on his back, while others around held his legs in the air, offering encouragement when the task got tough.

The first attempt failed, but the ordeal was enlightening. I understood my bottom better as a result of it, and he understood and trusted me more as well. I could tell that he really would be able to take a fist this evening, and he realized that I knew exactly what I was doing. We all made a joint effort on the next go round, Pereyra working his tits, the others helping by just being there. I pushed in until the widest point of my hand was forcing his hole to its maximum size, and I told him to push out--to try to shove my hand out of his ass. This is a tip for you guys--when the bottom pushes out, it forces the hand in deeper and for some physiological reason, he can take much more pain than he otherwise can. He quickly got to the point where with a final shove I could get my fist in his ass.

I shoved... He whimpered... He smiled... He took my hairy paw and got fisted. It was short and sweet.
He was overwhelmed and thrilled at the same time. He had acheived a long sought after goal; I was proud to be a part of it. And I had begun to build my reputation in the windy city.

Several other guys got fisted that night. I did Michael from New York (another virgin who took it good), and Diego, to repay him for earlier pleasures. Thanks guys, it was hot. And I did my Ft. Lauderdale stud again later in the night. It was easier the second time. But he could only take it for a few moments. It was hot; I thought at the time that I wished I had my camera crew.
I didn't get to Ed's double jointed fingers that night, so I reserved them for the early shift at the Saturday MAFIA party.

Fisting beginners used to bore me--for many years I would much rather have launched into a full scale assault on an experienced hole. Punch Fisting is my specialty. But over the years my attitude has changed. A person's first fisting experience is often a life changing event. It is a sexperience that they will probably remember for the rest of their lives. I get off on being a part of that experience; I like the fact that there are a hell of a lot of guys out there that will remember having sex with me forever. I remember each of them as well. I guess what I am trying to say is that a first fisting--both its joys and its hurts--is a special event. No every chance I get to open a new hole.



Updated 5/24/05

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